Tag: dating

XKCD Dating

Male Seeks Female to play Stick Figure from XKCD Comics. The stories of love, passion, anguish and despair on XKCD’s comics speak directly to my soul. Every strip paints the perfect picture of a moment that has played out 1000x in my head over the years. I’ve watched as someone reached out and grabbed those thoughts, throwing them onto paper in what could only be seen as a narration of the happiest moments of the part of my life I haven’t stumbled upon yet. But I’m just a male stick figure. I have no squiggly hair.

Mutual Catfishing

He tried to explain what drew him to his computer. “When I’m talking to Cindy or you like this, face-to-face,, it’s hard for me to say what I feel.” As Tommy, however, the words came easily. And then there was Jessi. He loved her, or at least believed he loved her, though he knew he was “never going to meet her.” His plan was to “kill Tommy off” in Iraq, but Cindy intervened too soon. He nearly committed suicide because of his guilt about having lied to Jessi. Why, I asked, when he was suspicious of so much of what Jessi said, did he believe she was who she claimed? “She kept sending pictures. 1 picture, maybe not. But there were so many pictures over a period of time.”

too funny. both sides were internet dogs, as it were

Dating pitches

You caught my eye because of your great sense of humor. I appreciate how grounded and down to earth you are.
Schoen ist eigentlich alles, was man mit den Augen der Liebe betrachtet. Ich wollte Dir etwas unbeschreiblich schoenes, liebes, einfuehlsames, heisses, erotisches, prickelndes und kluges senden, aber ich bin eben nur eine zarte, suesse Frau.
Vielleicht machst Du den Anfang.

these 2 made their way into my inbox. i didn’t consider myself down to earth, but what do i know. also, another email complained: why are you always offline?

simplicity drives adoption

i joined meinbild.ch today after bernhard had some interesting things to say about it. bernhard argues that simplicity can drive adoption, and that simplicity may help to even the gender balance online:

And what is noticeable are 2 things: 1. It is really, really basic and lacks many features of the usual dating sites. 2. It is quite successful.

now, with its friends feature, one could imagine this service to emit FOAF somewhere. granted that’s totally against the simplicity argument, but it could be hidden at first.

Google dating

In the singles world, for instance, Google dating running prospective beaus through the search engine is now standard practice. If the facts about a suitor stack up, then you can not only go on the date with confidence, but you know what to talk about. “If I find out he’s a runner, for instance, that’s something I know we have in common, and I’ll say that I’m a runner, too”. The first thing a Google virgin attempts is the often humbling experience of typing one’s own name into the query line. The next search is inevitable – a Google dragnet to determine the fate of old flames. A Nobel Prize awaits the theorist who determines a formula that calculates the number of minutes one can use Google before excavating the wreckage of sunken relationships. “It’s comforting to know what they’ve been up to”.

spot-on. unfortunately, until everyone uses the internet (and leaves marks), the search is stacked against netizens. then again, i don’t mind if someone informs herself before she meets me. and if someone gets beyond the scary pics in the gallery, well what can i say 🙂
2004-01-24:

orkut is an online community that connects people through a network of trusted friends.
We are committed to providing an online meeting place where people can socialize, make new acquaintances and find others who share their interests.
in affiliation with google

smart move on googles part to capitalize on prior art.

Dating Zoom

100s of millions are online. chose a random site, enter some data about yourself. site has 20M members. (zoom in 10e-1) narrow down these 20M to 100. (zoom in 10e-5) enter some more data, another power of 10 gone -> 10. notice a 93% correlation of character traits in 1 of these (another 10e-1 zoom). start a dialog. reveal information tit for tat. draw a physical perimeter of 100), 10), 2 kilometers, and narrow it down as you learn more. exchange more emails. on a whim, go out for a drink with that person. have a very nice chat. exercise for the reader: calculate the probabilities.

Relationships and Open source

I had a strange, yet funny conversation with a female friend today. Can you tell she is a geek?

purplegreen: let me ask your opinion about a male behavior…
purplegreen: popped just right now onto my operand stack 🙂
purplegreen: there is a guy
purplegreen: simon is a friend of his, that’s why i know the details
purplegreen: listening?
Gregor J. Rothfuss: yes
purplegreen: thnx
purplegreen: well, he has been single for a while, but he’s handsome, ghee
purplegreen: well, he met a girl who was sort of crazy for him
purplegreen: and it happened that he met her blabla
purplegreen: fact is that there is something going on, but he doesn’t tell his friends
purplegreen: and you don’t see anything in public
purplegreen: no holding hands, no kisses
purplegreen: no nothing
Gregor J. Rothfuss: interesting
Gregor J. Rothfuss: intriguing
purplegreen: but they come together and go together
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i kinda like that approach
purplegreen: what is going on?
Gregor J. Rothfuss: hehe
purplegreen: simon says they are sleeping together, but it’s nothing to write home about….
purplegreen: still i think it’s strange
Gregor J. Rothfuss: maybe they don’t want to deal with idiotic friends who want to offer “advice”
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i could see that as a problem sometimes
purplegreen: ahhhh, come on
purplegreen: there’s no advice needed
purplegreen: right now it’s about the fun
purplegreen: why not tell his best friends
purplegreen: why not show a bit in public
Gregor J. Rothfuss: well, why tell him?
purplegreen: they are friends
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i don’t tell all my trivial stuff either
Gregor J. Rothfuss: if its fun its prolly trivial
Gregor J. Rothfuss: by telling others you make a big deal out of it
Gregor J. Rothfuss: which it maybe isn’t
purplegreen: for her it is – i can tell
purplegreen: she not the kinda – fun – girl
Gregor J. Rothfuss: serious romances are not fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: at least, i wouldn’t call them fun
purplegreen: well, when romances aren’t fun, so what’s the deal in getting started?
Gregor J. Rothfuss: romances are
Gregor J. Rothfuss: wrong word
Gregor J. Rothfuss: love interests are not fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: fun is too light hearted a term imo
purplegreen: it’s not really fun to get into the analyze und entwurf phasis… afterwards it should be fun or you better get out
Gregor J. Rothfuss: implement
Gregor J. Rothfuss: is fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: prototyping
Gregor J. Rothfuss: is fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: throwing exceptions
Gregor J. Rothfuss: is fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: refactoring
Gregor J. Rothfuss: is fun. NOT.
Gregor J. Rothfuss: man, i’m reading my first chapter
Gregor J. Rothfuss: and it sucks rocks
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i’m rewriting it
purplegreen: to make your source code open -> is not fun
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i must have been smoking crack
Gregor J. Rothfuss: hehe
purplegreen: aha
purplegreen: are ya 🙂
Gregor J. Rothfuss: maybe they should copyleft their relation
Gregor J. Rothfuss: maybe they do not want others being able to modify it
Gregor J. Rothfuss: ahem.
purplegreen: i don’t want it to be modified by anybody but me
purplegreen: sure they can send patches
purplegreen: but i might not apply them
Gregor J. Rothfuss: i was going to say that
Gregor J. Rothfuss: LOL
Gregor J. Rothfuss: we are twisted
purplegreen: i simply love to explain life in it terms
purplegreen: it just suits perfectly
purplegreen: i feel like a cvs repository
Gregor J. Rothfuss: word!!
Gregor J. Rothfuss: you are a geek
Gregor J. Rothfuss: welcome.